Dad, You're Grounded!

The great God must have definitely thought, many times, of ways to ease up the high ranked species called parents and to hand over the reign of power, to the much milder species called children.Probably, that's when He decided to make our parents OLD.
But even ageing doesn't come easy for children to handle!

Do our parents feel insignificant as they grow old?Does their insecurities and assumptions widen the already existing gap?How can we help them cope up with these insecurities that arise with ageing?Most of the parents fear their future, with the gradual lose of sight.They start feeling that they're going to be soon incapable of doing the regular things they used to do for ages,be it reading magazines,watching cricket scores,running around with their children,etc.And as time passes,they start getting frustrated when restrictions come into being.Maybe its food,exercise or limited activities.

Lets see some of the ways we can help our parents cope up with this changing behaviour.

Never say never! - The parents despise that,the same way we all do.Its human!We just can't take "No" for an answer.So what if they started showing rising counts of sugar and cholestrol.Dont get behind their backs always shooing them away from all their favourite delicacies.Remember someday even you would go through the same thing if you dont end up in the lucky 5% with no health issues.I remember once,when we were at a friend's place and tea was being served.I specifically told my aunt that my dad has diabetics and so he wouldn't prefer sugar.But I wasn't suprised when she came telling that my dad insisted on having some sugar and said he was perfect.He likes to be known as a Big Boy and not an Old man who has his grandchildren on their way!hehe..Face it,its difficult to let go of all that you like and mostly "embarrasing" to tell the others that you're the lucky one with insulin deficiency! :)
Help them get through this with a healthy lifestyle and treat them with their goodies for their hardwork.Their worser than the 3 yr olds!So lets not forget the times our parents put up with us when we were of that age.


Patience - The key ingredient for any happy relationship.And trust me, parents can be more fussy than the kids.I was shocked when my mom disclosed all her feelings out to my best friend.She had nothing but complains about me and I thought I did a pretty good job with handling my parents!They keep all the little things at heart and make a mountain out of it.They are so specialised in that field right?But guess what,it just gets worser as time passes by!So friends,even if its a stupid tale of your neighbour's daughter running away with a milkman,give ears to your parents! ;)


Fight distance - We all know the "Generation Gap".But as our parents grow weak and we get stronger,it ends up in "complexity".The Inferior one, from our parents side, fearing we have the capability of dumping them up in old age homes and Superior one, from the young adults, boasting in their success and far-fledged knowledge.We kids have always thought of our parents like super heroes.Never once would they need us.But that's not true.They may need us but they would also like to be felt that they still our heroes.Wouldn't we all like that from our children too? I surely do think so.


Time - An interesting commodity of life! Unavailable in todays era.But managing it well and giving enough to those who deserves it, is certainly worth the try.God could have made a day comprising of 48 hrs or 72 hrs.But He knew that 24 hrs is sufficient for all of us to live well and happily.So who's wiser than the Supreme being to say we don't have enough time for some love?

Expectations - True, sometimes we feel we put in a lot of effort and do not get the expected gratitude or acknowledgments.Its just all complaints and demands!That's when frustration forms an army and fires words which could kill a soul.Your parents could have been tensed about something or just venting out their frustration on you.You didn't choose this situation to occur but what you say or how you react to it,is fully your choice. Be the smarter one and back out.

They cared,they loved and they nourished you with all that they had. Some gave up their favourite toffees for their children and others worked extra on their day-off so you could spend that money with friends and watch a movie on your birthday!

You were once their responsibility, now their Yours.
Don't run away or walk out on them when they really need you.